Before the Wedding

An engagement session
that feels like you.

Start with a place you love. Let the photographs bring you back to it.

An overhead view of a couple together at a café table.

When couples ask where to take their engagement photographs, I like to begin with a different question: where do you love spending time together?

It might be the coffee shop where you met, the campus where your story began, or the neighborhood you walk through every Sunday. The location doesn’t have to be extraordinary. What matters is that it means something to you.

Choose a place with a story.

In my book, I encourage couples to think about places connected to their relationship: a first kiss, a proposal, a shared interest. Years from now, those photographs can bring back more than how you looked. They can remind you of what life felt like at the beginning.

I’ve photographed engagement sessions in coffee shops, movie theaters, on college campuses and even on the rooftop of a couple’s home. I enjoy the challenge of finding photographs in the places my couples choose.

The café photograph here shows how an everyday setting can become something personal. You don’t need a crowded scene or an elaborate setup for the connection between two people to be the thing you notice.

Give your photographer a starting point.

Tell me why you love the place, what you do there, and what you imagine when you think about the session. Then we can consider the light, the timing and whether permission is needed to photograph there.

If you don’t have a particular place in mind, that’s fine too. A setting where you feel comfortable is a good beginning. We can choose somewhere that suits the way you spend time together.

Get comfortable before the wedding.

When possible, I recommend doing your engagement session with the photographer who will photograph your wedding. It gives you time to get to know each other without the demands of the wedding day.

You learn how your photographer gives direction. Your photographer learns about your personalities and the way you connect. Seeing the photographs afterward also gives you a chance to talk about what you love before the wedding arrives.

Keep it simple enough to enjoy.

You don’t need to turn the afternoon into a production. Wear something that feels like you, allow time to settle in, and leave room for a walk or a conversation instead of moving from one pose to the next.

If you’re planning a hair and makeup trial, you could arrange it for the same day. But it isn’t a requirement, and your engagement photographs don’t have to look like a rehearsal for your wedding.

The best starting point is your life as it is now. Let’s make photographs that will help you remember it.

From the book

The Secrets to Spectacular Wedding Photography

Adapted from my advice for couples on making the most of their wedding photographs—before, during and after the day.

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